La Respuesta 02: Barbara Grant

 
Barbara Grant, founder of Nudge and Cradle. Photo by  Leah Beilhart

Barbara Grant, founder of Nudge and Cradle.
Photo by Leah Beilhart

 

La Respuesta is Navegando's version of the Proust Questionnaire, where we take a deep dive into exploring our similarities, our differences, and the stories that make us human. 

My name is Barbara Grant, and I've been living in Washington, DC for almost 12 years, by way of California and Mexico. I work with families and young children with developmental delays and disabilities, and recently started a new business providing developmental and parenting supports called Nudge and Cradle (let's hear it for the side hustle!). You can find me spending time in my backyard with my lovely husband, Simon and equally lovely dog, Milanesa (aka Mila, aka a bunch of other embarrassing nicknames I won't list here), and constantly trying to find good Mexican food.

Name: Barbara Grant
Current age: 30
Current location: Washington, DC

What defines you?  My caring and love for others. My fierce loyalty to friends and family. My unique culture and background. My deep and never ending love for eating. 

What keeps you up at night? Thinking about people that are in pain, and trying to see if I can help. This can get a bit overwhelming, especially in our current political climate. But I really think it is so important to not ignore those that are feeling hurt just because it can be too much for us personally. It can be really exhausting, mentally and because of the lack of sleep. That's why self-care is so important to me, so I can be ready to hold someone else's pain, even for a moment, whenever possible. 

What do you want the most? To be happy, and to help others feel happy and loved.

How do you handle loneliness? I think there should be a clear distinction between being alone and feeling loneliness. I actually really love spending time alone; it lets me recharge and take care of myself. I think everyone should try to find some alone time at least once or twice a week, even if its just 5 minutes to take some deep breaths. However, I absolutely do not like feeling lonely, and actively try to avoid it. It makes me feel really anxious and not great. To combat feeling lonely, I plan times that I can spend with loved ones (either friends and family, or beloved characters in books and shows), looking at beautiful things, being in nature, and playing with my dog, Mila (who is both a loved one and beautiful thing).

How do you feel purposeful? Helping others and amplifying the voices of others who can't do it on their own. Since I was little, when someone asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I would answer that I wanted to help others and work with kids. So I kinda really nailed it with my job. I feel most me, most true to my self when I know that I have helped someone in a way that they could not have done on their own, whether its an obvious things or just a seed I help plant in them that will grow later. I try to be intentional with all of my actions, make sure that I am being of service to others, and that all voices are being heard, especially those of women, POC, and people with disabilities. 

What do you do, when there is no one else around? I'd say its a combo between lying down to do things (eating, watching tv, reading, etc.) and dancing.

What character in fame or fiction would you most like to be? Hermione Granger, because of her obvious smarts, bravery, and bad-assery. Malala Yousafzai, because of her obvious smarts, bravery, and bad-assery. Selena, because wasn't she just amazing?!?

What thing can you not live without? Love, books, tacos, and cheese.

What medium of art most moves you, and what work makes your heart sing? SUCH a hard question. Part of me wants to say it depends on the day, but the other part of me knows that reading is my one true love. I was that kid who would only ask for books as gifts, and currently have slowly growing piles of books all over my house (if anyone has an extra bookcase they want to get rid of, get at me). There are so many amazing books that I return to over and over again, but currently my two faves are Joan Didion's The Year of Magical Thinking and Hanya Yanagihara's A Little Life. Uplifting, I know. 

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